I was drenched in sweat and had brain fog - I thought I had cancer

I was drenched in sweat and had brain fog - I thought I had cancer Emma McCaffrey was battling brain fog and hot flushes, forcing her to slash her working hours from 15 a week to just 90 minutes A mum says she was drenched in sweat, forgetting words mid-sentence and had to cut her hours down to 90 minutes before she realised what was wrong with her. Emma McCaffrey began suffering night sweats, memory lapses, vertigo and sudden hot flushes in her early forties, leaving her convinced something was seriously wrong. The 48 year old's symptoms became so overwhelming that she cut her hours as an online personal trainer from 15 hours a week to 90 minutes. "I got really intense night sweats and I thought it was cancer," Emma, from Winchester, Hampshire, said. "It was very unnerving. Then it was brain fog, forgetfulness, brain fog, vertigo and rage moments where I had less tolerance. "My joints ached from the lack of estrogen and I thought it was because I was doing too many squats. I became aware it was affecting my work when I got forgetful and mid sentence, I would know exactly what i was going to say then I'd forget what i was saying and for the life of me I couldn't remember. "Teaching is like a performance so you need to be on it. You're stood in front of people and you're the expert then you forget what you're saying, "It was frustrating and stressful, I get hot flushes and my skin goes really red and that's not a nice feeling. I'm comfortable in my own skin but for someone who is anxious it must be even worse. "Aching joints affected my confidence because I thought I was doing things wrong." She was living with the day-to-day realities of the menopause. Eventually, the exhaustion forced her to dramatically reduce her workload. Emma said: "I've already got so much to remember, have the kids got everything? Is it World Book Day? I've got my own business. "The mental load is huge anyway and then you lost it and drop balls because of the lack of estrogen. I've had to reduce my hours from 15 hours to 90 minutes. "I get tired and it was too much. I definitely do what I do because of my life stage and I want to make other women feel better at this stage in life and I believe movement is key to that. "I want flexibility and I don't want to be pushing myself. I don't want to be thinking 'why am I doing this?'. "I want to be looking after myself and nourishing myself, I want to do things on my terms and to suit how I'm feeling. It's not about pushing yourself, it's about turning up. "You have to listen to your body if your estrogen is really low one day." Despite moments where she felt she "couldn't manage" her symptoms, Emma made a conscious decision not to hide what she was going through from her clients. Emma said: "It's so important to talk about. There are so many symptoms but still so many women dont know that menopause is having an impact on them. "Women aren't tying the symptoms together. It's confusing because you get loads of confidence in your forties and don't care what people think then we lose estrogen." HRT to help with symptoms Emma is now on HRT to help manage her symptoms. She believes employers also need to better understand what menopausal women are experiencing. Emma, who owns online fitness platform Move With Emma, added: "I think employers should be understanding, women are the ones who go through it but what about the people around them, sons, fathers and brothers. It's important to educate the workplace and it's important not to patronise. "Some people sail through menopause and different people need different things. People should be able to feel like they can be honest about what they're feeling. "Employers should ask people what they need, check in to see if they're ok and make sure they feel like they can talk about what they're feeling. The workplace and the economy are losing talent if women are alienated. "Women in their forties, fifties, sixties have so much to give. Women in midlife have so much learned and lived experience, you don't want it walking out of the workplace. "Menopause is half of the population's experience. I encourage women to inform themselves, track what their body is going through, take a friend on a partner to the doctors for support, write down the questions they want to ask and have an idea of what they want. "Why should we suffer? We're managing so much as it is and dealing with so much at once. It's about the quality of every day and being able to enjoy those little moments." NHS symptoms of menopause and perimenopause The NHS website says "you may get symptoms that have a big impact on your daily life, including relationships, social life, family life and work, or you may hardly have any symptoms at all." It lists symptoms you may experience. - Changes to your periods - Hot flushes and night sweats - Sleep problems - Mood changes, poor memory and brain fog - Weight gain - Vaginal problems - UTIs (urinary tract infections) You may also notice other signs, the NHS says. These can include: - skin changes, including dry and itchy skin - weakening bones (loss of bone density), which can lead to osteoporosis - hair thinning or hair loss - reduced sex drive (loss of libido) - feeling the need to pee more or not being able to control when you pee (urinary incontinence) - muscle aches and joint pains - headaches and migraines that are worse than usual - a faster, slower or more noticeable heartbeat (palpitations) - sensitive teeth, painful gums or other mouth problems