'My mum doesn't like my son's name so won't call him it – I'm furious'

'My mum doesn't like my son's name so won't call him it – I'm furious' A new mum claims her own mother refuses to use her newborn son's chosen name and has instead come up with another name for him that she continues to call him A new mum has sought advice after revealing that her own mother refuses to use her newborn son's actual name, instead opting to call him something else entirely. Choosing a baby name is no easy feat. Most new parents spend months searching for the perfect name for their babies, with modern baby name trends showing that mums and dads are increasingly keen to find something unique for their little ones. And once a name is chosen, it can often be met with criticism from those you share it with. That's precisely what happened to one woman, who had just given birth to her third son and is now facing the frustrating reality that her own mother won't use her baby boy's real name. "Feel like mom doesn't respect name choice," the mum wrote in the headline of her post, before elaborating on her predicament. She explained that she'd just welcomed her third son, Matthew, saying they loved the name because it's timeless and, 'most of all the meaning, gift from God'. Yet throughout her entire pregnancy, her mother had insisted she 'felt like' the baby's name was Xavier. "Just randomly and without reason, she has expressed it multiple times," she said. "To which I just said, 'hmm interesting' and didn't entertain further discussion." Yet when the baby arrived and they announced his name as Matthew, the grandmother simply responded that she 'will probably call him Mateo'. "I know it's not but I feel like Mateo is a totally different name from Matthew and I wish she would just call him what we chose," the Reddit user said, before asking for the best ways to address the situation, or whether or not she was being 'too sensitive'. She revealed she also has two older sons, and is concerned they might start copying their grandmother by calling their youngest brother Mateo. It appears this isn't the first time the older woman has rubbed her children up the wrong way. She went on to share: "This is not the first time she has put her foot in her mouth and almost ruined relationships with her children, in fact my younger brother is currently no contact with her because of something else insensitive she said." The woman also pondered whether her mother's urge to invent a new name for her grandson could be linked to her recent divorce, suggesting she may have since been 'trying to find more identity with her Mexican side'. As the responses to her post flooded in, it became evident that the mum wasn't overreacting and that her mother was 'disrespecting' her son's chosen name. "I would start calling her a totally different name. Karen, heck even call her Dad," one person said. "If she asks why just say, 'oh I thought we were making up new names for everyone?'". Another person said: "this is very weird behaviour from your mom, who had the chance to name her own child/ren. it's 100% okay to correct her if she tries to call him Mateo. "Tell her she can name her next child Mateo, but your son is Matthew and she needs to respect that," a third person said. Regarding the mother's apparent desire to embrace her Mexican roots, another user suggested: "I'm sure that's tough for her, but this is your baby, not hers. She can't hijack your baby's name for her own purposes. She can get a cat and call it Xavier.." Yet not everybody took issue with the situation, as one commenter pointed out: "Matthew and Mateo are different languages' versions of the same name. I think it's more like someone named Rose whose abuela calls her Rosa. It could be a way for Matthew to learn more about his own heritage. I don't see the harm. (At least she isn't calling him Xavier! )".