'Help! Our friend tried to kiss me while my wife made coffee'

Dear Coleen, I’m a man in my 30s and my wife and I are very good friends with another couple, who we’re going on holiday with next month. The other night, we went out for a drink to talk about the arrangements and inevitably got quite drunk, so this couple came back to ours to stay the night, rather than get a taxi home. My wife and the husband went into the kitchen to make a coffee – my wife recently got a new all-singing, all-dancing coffee machine for her birthday and he wanted to check it out. I was left on the sofa with his wife and she leaned in and tried to kiss me. I moved away immediately and got up and, at that point, the other two came back into the room with the drinks. I don’t know what to think about this. Was she just hammered or does she actually want to sleep with me? It goes without saying that I wish we could drop out of this holiday. I know if I tell my wife, she’ll freak out and her friendship with the woman will be over. I don’t think her husband will take it well either. What do I do? Ignore it or say something? I’ve never been in this situation before and haven’t given her any encouragement. I love my wife and wouldn’t cheat. Coleen says, Awkward. OK, if she’d had too much to drink, then she might also be thinking, “What the hell did I just do?” and hating herself a bit right now. She might be very embarrassed. If you weren’t going on holiday together, I might suggest just letting it go this time and saving you both more awkwardness. However, I think you should probably pull her aside before your trip and say something like: “I’m putting what happened the other night down to being very drunk, but just wanted to say it can’t happen again because I’m happily married and not interested in anyone else.” Hopefully, it’ll clear the air, even if it’s a bit uncomfortable. But if it comes close to happening again or she lets you know she likes you, you have to be very clear that it’s never going to happen. She’s not behaving like a good friend to your wife so, if I were you, I’d stop with the double dates. You can still see the husband for a pint if you want, but I think this couples’ friendship has got a little too close for comfort. And just be mindful on holiday because, whether you think it or not, something like this is flattering for your ego. So don’t be tempted to be even the slightest bit flirtatious – and watch those holiday cocktails. Coleen's Words of Wisdom A really easy strategy to reduce stress and ensure a better night’s sleep is to organise your day the night before. Write down your priorities, so you wake up with a clear plan for the day ahead.