Half of new parents feel lonely - even with friends and family around

Half of new parents feel lonely - even with friends and family around New research discovered more than of half parents felt lonely during the first 1,000 days of having a baby, despite most having friends and family around them More than half of new parents experience loneliness, despite two thirds having a 'village' around them for support. A study of 4,339 parents, including 500 from the UK, with children aged three and under found 53% have felt lonely during the first 1,000 days after welcoming a child. On average, parents have three sources of support, lower than the eight recommended by paediatricians in a separate survey. Immediate or extended family (70%), themselves or their partner (72%), and friends (51%), most often make up what if often classified as a 'village. Yet, 66% feel their village isn't as strong as it was 20 years ago. The findings come from The Pampers Baby Report: The Village Barometer. The report is based on Europe-wide research and informed by further statistical review by UNICEF’s Office of Research Innocenti and insights from Natasha Kirkham, professor of developmental psychology. At the heart of the report is the Village Barometer, which surveyed 4,339 parents and 425 paediatricians across nine countries to create a new measure of how supported parents feel by the people, services, and systems around them. It looks across five areas of early parenthood to reveal where families feel well supported, where pressures are greatest, and where their wider ‘village’ could make the biggest difference. Professor Natasha Kirkham said: “The first 1,000 days are an important foundation for child health and development, but the message should not add pressure to parents. “Babies do not need perfect conditions, they need a healthy, nurturing and responsive environment around them.” It revealed sleep disruption may be an additional contributor to parents feeling isolated, with those in the UK losing an average of five-and-a-half hours of sleep every week after having a child. Modern parenting is also shaped by a constant flow of information, with 42% of parents polled across Europe feeling overwhelmed by parenting advice. This is a concern echoed by healthcare professionals, as 95% of paediatricians think access to too many sources of advice can overwhelm parents. But 41% believe modern life is not designed with babies in mind, underlining the role of workplaces, services, and everyday environments in shaping how supported families feel. The report also highlighted the importance of play, which is widely recognised as essential for early childhood development, as an area where many parents feel under pressure. While 90% of UK parents felt play is very or extremely important for their baby’s development, 70% of all European parents have experienced some form of pressure, guilt, or judgement around playtime. In the UK specifically, 47% feel confident supporting their baby's development through play – compared to 64% of all parents across Europe. Nearly half (45%) of all polled reported not having enough time, whereas 38% cited tiredness, stress, or a lack of mental space. Federica Pompei, senior vice president and general manager, Pampers, said: “The first 1,000 days of a baby’s life are one of the most joyful, emotional and transformative periods for any family, but every beautiful milestone can also bring a thousand new questions. “As a mother, I know how much it matters to know that you are not navigating those moments alone.”