Girl, 13, devastated as she's pulled out of class to ask why she's put on weight

Girl, 13, devastated as she's pulled out of class to ask why she's put on weight A teenager was left in tears after being pulled out of class by a school nurse for an unexpected conversation, with people questioning whether the school had gone too far While some children look forward to going to school and catching up with their friends, others would much rather stay at home. That's exactly how one 13-year-old has been feeling since her school nurse pulled her out of class to ask her an unexpected and deeply personal question. The teenager was left in floods of tears after being questioned about whether everything was okay at home and school, before the nurse explained that several teachers had noticed a significant change in her weight. Things became even more uncomfortable when the nurse began asking personal questions about her eating habits and whether her clothes still fitted properly. Taking to Reddit, the girl's brother's girlfriend shared what had happened, questioning whether the school had crossed a line by raising the teenager's weight with her. 'She was in tears the whole time' She said: "She asked if she noticed some mood changes, if she’s eating more than usual, if her clothes still fit her normally. My boyfriend's sister was in tears the whole time. She then got asked to get up and show her inner thighs (to see if her jeans are ripped from chafing). Is this allowed? "Can teachers/nurses speculate on students weights like that? And talk to them about it? We’re not wrong to think this is inappropriate, right?" She went on to explain that the teenager had spent the weekend in tears following the conversation, and feared the school's attempt to check on her wellbeing may have done more harm than good. 'As if they aren’t already self conscious enough' She added: "I know weight gain can be a sign of depression or something more serious, and my boyfriend's sister is very quiet and just stays by herself most of the time. I get why the nurse/teachers might've thought that, but I think it’s extremely inappropriate to ask a teenager those kinds of questions. Especially a 13 year old, as if they aren’t already self conscious enough. "Now, she doesn’t trust her teachers, because she doesn’t know who’s secretly judging her. My boyfriend told me that she’s probably not going to go to school Monday, but this is just such a weird thing to say to a kid, I don’t really know what you can do. She doesn’t want to talk to her parents about it, she only told her brother and me." People defend the school's welfare check The post sparked a debate in the comments, with some suggesting the nurse may have been carrying out a welfare check, while others questioned whether the situation could have been handled more sensitively. One user wrote: "It likely was an internal welfare check. And it was not orchestrated well. "I work with kids and we do these kinds of checks in a much better and tactful way with kids that either rapidly gain or lose weight. Sorry it upset her so much. Is she ok though? Rapid weight gain or loss is cause for concern" Another suggested the nurse may have been trying to establish whether the teenager was pregnant, commenting: "I'm guessing the nurse was trying to figure out if the girl was pregnant, which would be a concern. Not sure if that makes it a mandated report, but...?" A third user also defended the school's decision to check on the girl, pointing out that sudden weight gain can sometimes be linked to underlying health concerns. They wrote: "Rapid weight gain can be caused by diabetes, PCOS, hypothyroidism, pregnancy, etc. "If it was enough several teachers to notice, it had to be pretty extreme. Being concerned is a teacher's job. Now, asking about the jeans is weird, but being concerned she’s not sick or pregnant is not." Ensure our latest headlines always appear at the top of your Google Search by making us a Preferred Source. Click here to activate or add us as Preferred Source in your Google search settings.